Let’s get one thing clear, love—
These habits?
They’re not about biting your nails or skipping leg day.
They’re the deep, sneaky kind.
The ones that play dress-up as “normal thinking” but are secretly holding you hostage in a life you’re not thrilled about.
Let’s unravel them, one by one, shall we?
✨ Habit 1: You’re Not Being Selfish Enough
I know, I know—
We were raised to believe selfish = bad.
But guess what? That’s a lie. A big, exhausting, soul-sucking lie.
Being selfish in the right way is the most loving thing you can do.
Think airplane oxygen mask: put yours on first, then help others. Because a burned-out mama can’t pour from an empty mug, right?
Here’s how to reclaim your energy unapologetically:
- Create your non-negotiables (sleep, alone time, a walk without someone tugging on your arm).
- Say “no” without the guilt party. You’re allowed to say no without a 10-slide PowerPoint presentation.
- Check your energy budget before saying yes. Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.
- Give from the overflow, not the last drop.
Being “selfish” isn’t about being rude—it’s about being strategic.
Your joy, energy, and growth are not optional. They’re essential.
✨ Habit 2: Asking “How Do I Start?” Like It’s a Magic Spell
Okay, love… brace yourself—this might sting a little.
Asking how to start is often just code for “What if I mess this up?”
But let me lovingly say:
What else are you gonna do? Keep replaying the same Tuesday on a loop, waiting for a fairy godmother?
You don’t need a 10-step formula. You need… action.
Start messy. Start unsure. Start now.
Imagine being the first person ever to do the thing you want to do—build a business, start a blog, create a community, write your story.
No tutorials. No perfect plan. Just curiosity, courage, and cringe-worthy trial and error.
Start by:
- Letting it be bad before it gets good
- Doing it even when it’s awkward
- Trusting that clarity always follows action
It’s not about a finish line, babe. It’s about being brave enough to begin. And begin again.
✨ Habit 3: Never Hitting “Publish”
You know that blog post sitting in your drafts?
The biz idea you keep doodling in your journal?
That dream that lives in your notes app but never sees the light of day?
Yeah, that one.
Hit. Publish.
Perfect is a fantasy. Published is power.
Nobody can support your dream if they don’t know it exists.
Every time you don’t share, you rob yourself of momentum, growth, and maybe even your future favorite client or community member.
Publishing gives your ideas wings.
It tells the universe, “I’m showing up now. Let’s do this.”
And if you’re waiting for it to be perfect…well, that’s just fear in a cute outfit.
✨ Habit 4: Making Things Way. Too. Complicated.
Look, love—
People who know less than you are out here thriving simply because they actually do the thing.
No overthinking. No spreadsheet marathons. Just bold, messy action.
If you’re stuck in “research mode,” collecting info like seashells but never building the sandcastle… it’s time for a reset.
Here’s your new motto:
Master the basics. Execute like a queen. Tweak as you go.
We don’t need a step-by-step blueprint.
We need surfboard energy—ride the waves, fall off, get back up, laugh it off, try again.
✨ Habit 5: Letting Your Feelings Run the Show
Feelings are fabulous.
They’re like glittery little messengers trying to tell you something important.
But sometimes, babe? They’re just plain dramatic.
You’re not lazy.
You’re not unmotivated.
You’re just listening to that tiny inner diva who whispers:
“Let’s not today. Maybe never. Also… snacks?”
Truth bomb: You don’t need to feel like doing something to actually do it.
(Yeah, read that again.)
Your feelings are valid, but they don’t always get to be in charge.
Sometimes you’ve got to lovingly say:
“Thanks for sharing, but we’re still getting up and brushing our teeth today.”
Here’s a quick feel-it-but-still-do-it strategy:
- Name the feeling (ugh, overwhelm? hello again.)
- Choose the next tiny step (we’re not saving the world, we’re just opening the laptop)
- Do it anyway, even if your brain throws a tantrum
Because taking one tiny step in the right direction often creates the momentum your mood was waiting for.
✨ Habit 6: Waiting for Motivation Instead of Creating Discipline
Motivation is cute.
It’s like that flirty crush that texts you back… sometimes.
Discipline?
That’s your ride-or-die.
The bestie who shows up rain or shine with coffee and a pep talk.
Here’s the truth:
Motivation might get you started, but only discipline keeps you moving.
And before you groan—no, discipline isn’t cold and rigid.
It’s actually a form of self-respect.
It says:
“I care about where I’m going, even on the days when it’s hard.”
So instead of waiting to “feel ready,” try this:
- Create a cozy routine around what matters
- Attach new habits to things you already do (tea + journal, anyone?)
- Make promises to yourself you actually keep, no matter how small
You don’t have to hustle.
You just have to keep showing up for the life you say you want.
✨ Habit 7: Thinking You Have to “Deserve” the Life You Want
Let’s get something straight:
You don’t earn joy.
You don’t prove your worth.
You already are worthy of a beautiful life—no gold stars or permission slips required.
But here’s the catch:
If deep down you believe you have to suffer or hustle your way to happiness,
you’ll block the good stuff even when it shows up.
That dream you’ve been daydreaming about?
You don’t have to wait until your house is spotless, your kids are older, or your to-do list bows down in defeat.
You get to want what you want.
And you get to go after it now.
Here’s your mantra, love:
“I am allowed to want more—and I don’t have to struggle to earn it.”
So ditch the guilt.
Ditch the proving.
You’re not here to earn the life you want.
You’re here to live it. Loudly. Boldly. Unapologetically.
Final Word, Love…
Here’s the truth:
You don’t need more information. You need more courageous action.
Let the work be awkward, let it be imperfect, but let it be real.
Because the life you crave?
It’s not waiting on perfect timing.
It’s waiting on you.
Now go out there and shake things up.
We’re rooting for you—and so is that version of you you haven’t met yet. 💖
